Finding Joy in Family Life- 30 ways to enjoy family life and Slow Down

Updated: Oct 4, 2020

REST


How to find more Joy and create a slower family lifestyle.

Rest is so important. In fact it's paramount to our body being able to be able to function properly.

Its hard to get enough rest often with young children. I remember when my son was little and me and my husband would take it in turns to have short naps.

I found this photograph and it made me smile.

Children always will play at any opportunity. I love this moment. My son liked to be close often when he played at this age.

Rest is not selfish and it teaches our children how important it is to take care of ourselves, sleep is a basic need we must fulfill. If we are tired we must listen to our bodies and providing our children are safe we can take short naps to help us function better!

In the long run, also going to bed early is a really good habit to get into to allow your body to have a deep rest, especially when you may again be getting disturbed by little ones waking.




SNUGGLE


Cuddles, hugs, cwtch, huggles, whatever you call it – we all need them, they make us feel good, help to calm us down,

reassure us, helps our personal, social and emotional development and stimulates the best mental state for brain

development.

Family therapist Virginia Satir once said, “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We

need 12 hugs a day for growth."

Hugging increases levels of the "love hormone" oxytocin... A 20-second hug, along with 10 minutes of hand-holding, also

reduces the harmful physical effects of stress, including its impact on your blood pressure and heart rate. This makes sense

since hugging is known to lower levels of stress hormones like cortisol.

Time can always be made every day for hugs, whether it's the first thing in the morning when you leave the house when you

get home and when you go to bed. There's always plenty of opportunities for hugs. Hug when you are happy when your sad and

all the in-betweens.

Hug away!





LAUGH


Who doesn't love a good proper belly laugh?

I know I do!

Laughter is a big part of our household. My husband never fails to make us laugh every day—I think that's great. Laughter is the best

medicine. It is so good for us. It lifts us and having this joy is a really important part of our lives.

Laughing lowers blood pressure, reduces stress and increases muscle flexion (it increases the circulation of antibodies in the blood

stream and makes us more resistant to infection.)

Laughter touches our soul, it brings us closer together. Sometimes life feels a little bit serious—so play and laugh, loosen up.

Laughter also helps to create more positive emotions.



MAKE SOMETHING TOGETHER /ART/JUNK MODELLING/ PLAY DOUGH


Whether you get a big roll of paper out and some paints with a selection of brushes and sponges,

Lot's of cardboard boxes, sellotape (selection of different tapes)

Old pipes, yoghurt pots, old bottle tops etc Play dough can create so many options too along with buttons, scraps of material, cookie

cutters, glass beads and pebbles, the list is endless but these little items create so many worlds of ideas of what you can make!

Creating Art doesn't have to be about a finished product it's the process that's the most important. The squishing, stamping,

cuttings, squeezing, gluing all does something with our hands and takes us into a different part of the brain. It can be very relaxing

to create without any end in mind. I think often adults feel a little bit silly if they haven't played with these materials for a long

time maybe since they were a child so it can feel foreign and they can often feel like they are not sure what to do, observe your

child, and ask them for some ideas to start you off.

 Your child may have very different ideas of what they want to create and may want you to help them or make something alone, but it's

great for adults to get involved in this process and spend some time together, you never know what creations you may come up with and

this time can create lovely conversations.



FAMILY DINNERS/ BREAKFAST IN BED


Family Dinners are a great time for Connection. It's not just about sitting together and eating the food at the same table. Connecting

with each other by taking the time to have eye contact with each other and listen to each other speak about your day. A lovely way to

connect and chat could be for each person to say;

- What they enjoyed about their day

- What they didn't enjoy/ or what perhaps didn't go so well or was challenging or difficult.

 A connection can be in many moments. It can be in the preparation of the food, the peeling, the cutting, the stirring, the mixing,

getting the food from the various places they need to come from. Children can be a part of family dinners in many ways helping with

all of those things and even things such as putting out cutlery, cups, pouring drinks into glasses etc, even clearing away or washing

the pots, or helping to fill a dishwasher.

These are all ways that build Connection with each other, it's also really important for children to feel involved. Children want to

be involved and these little things really do mean a lot and help them to feel connected and an integral part of their family life.



COMPLIMENT/RESPECT/NOTICE


How great do you feel when someone notices you? They notice a certain quality in you, or they notice something about you that they

really love.

In our everyday lives, it's really important to really notice our loved ones. Life can be really busy and in the course of a day

sometimes it's so easy to take the ones we love for granted.

Notice the people you love, and tell them something that you love about them often. It's a great way to connect and notice the

greatness in them.

It's the same with your kids.

We don't need to excessively compliment everything about people but if we can notice a quality or something positive such as;

- I'm so proud of the way you handled that situation

- That was really observant of you to notice—how thoughtful

- Don't worry that you spilled that, you had such a good try at balancing, and with lot's of practice it will get easier

- it was so lovely to receive a call from you whilst you were at work, I really needed to hear that I am loved today


GIVE GRATITUDE


"Gratitude is the healthiest of all the human emotions, the more you express Gratitude for what you have, the more likely you will

have more to express Gratitude for." Zig Ziglar

Gratitude is something I live by every day, throughout my days I always find something to be grateful for, it doesn't matter how small

it is, there is so much around us to be grateful for. Living our lives from a state of pure Gratitude reminds us to always look for

what I like to call rays of hope. Because even when we have difficult or challenging times, we can always choose to lift ourselves by

finding something to be grateful for. It can be as simple as being grateful for the morning cup of tea, the strangers smile, the time

someone took to wish you a good day, someone cheering you up or giving you a hug. We actually make a conscious choice to live in

Gratitude in each moment and can form a moment that is challenging or difficult choices to lift ourselves into a higher state of life.

It will change your life in the most beautiful way as you find around you these little rays of hope and joy that are all around you.

When we express Gratitude openly around our children we also encourage them to notice the little moments too. It could be as simple as

I am grateful for the Rain—it means we can have fun splashing in the puddles. I am grateful for the Spring flowers opening, their

beautiful colours cheer the world up and me. I am grateful for the morning bird song and to watch the little birds bathing in the bird

bath. You could even ask them—what do you feel Grateful for today?





GO ON AN ADVENTURE



An adventure can be ANYTHING!

Drive down a new street or take a different road home

Go outside when it's the night with a torch and explore

Find a hilly road to drive on

Visit a farm and pick your own fruit or vegetables

Look at the stars or watch a sunset

Have a sleep out in the family room

Find a new park out of town

Go hiking

Visit an airport

Catch or watch a train

holiday!

When you have young children An adventure can literally be anything! It can be imaginary in your home on a rainy day, going down the

garden to find worms, ad adventure walk to the shop, a treasure hunt on the way with a list to collect, the ideas are literally

LIMITLESS! Follow your child’s lead too :)



PLAY A GAME OUT IN THE OPEN


Games for connection

While children do need time to play alone and with other children without adult intervention, research shows that playtime with

parents is also important.

Children crave time with parents. It makes them feel special. I really encourage you as parents to find time to spend playing with

their kids on a regular basis. This should include one to one with each child and group time with all of the adults and kids in the

home. If you are a single parent or have an only child, occasionally invite family or friends over to play.

In pretend play, let the child develop the theme. Get into their world. Let them go with it. Ask questions. Play along. Be silly along

with them and have fun. Avoid over-stimulation. Know when it is time to stop.

Also, when appropriate, parents can use stuffed animals or puppets to act out real-life situations that can teach problem-solving or

social skills. Let the puppet demonstrate the wrong way to handle a situation. Then, along with input from the child, act out a better

way. Afterwards, let the child do the same.

Play outdoors. Throw balls. Push kids on swings. Make mud pies.

Play games – card games – board games – silly and wacky kids games. Help them learn to take turns, how to win and how to lose. Praise

them. Encourage them. Laugh with them.



PAINTING AND CRAFTS





STORY TIME


Storytime can be such a lovely time to connect. Setting aside a place for stories whether it's a cosy corner with blankets and pillows

where you snuggle up and read your child's favourite stori